do u ever lie on ur side and a small tear leaks out and ur just like whoa wtf body I know I’m sad but not that sad
Really inspired by @lola_beth talking about the benefits of connecting the heel to the forehead/third eye the other day, so I’ve been trying to incorporate it more into my practice. 💪
#the kingdom needs me
This is the cutest shit i have ever seen
The Opposite end of traditional “street harassment”: the girl who never get’s cat called
In feminist spaces I see a lot of feminists complain about being street harassed. I read about it and I totally sympathize with their experiences, even though I have never experienced them myself. I am a female myself but am not conventionally attractive. I am not hideous but more or less a plain jane. On top of that I have ALWAYS valued comfort over style, so dressing feminine isn’t something I do on a regular basis. I wear a lot of loose jeans and T-shirts. But yeah, anyway, know that I am not trying to play “who has it harder” or anything but rather I am making this to share my experiences of getting the opposite end of the shit-covered stick that is street harassment that I don’t see being mentioned. I call it street dismissal.
When I say street dismissal I am talking about men who feel the need to subtly announce that unattractive women are not worthy of respect or acknowledgement because they are not a conventionally attractive female or their fellow man.
Some examples I’ve personally experienced include:
- Many guys at parties will arrive or leave, give all the men handshakes, give the attractive women hugs, but won’t even make eye contact with me. I am not a guy or a hot girl so I don’t exist.
- I’ve been bumped into in public without an apology by men. I am not an attractive girl or your fellow man, so it makes sense for you to not even notice I am there.
- One time I was walking behind a group of attractive women. A guy spotted us. Opened the door for the three women and shut the door in my face. I am not worthy of his time because I am not attractive.
- I once was charged a cover on ladies night because I went out to the bar in my work uniform. (red shirt khaki pants)
- Another time at a bar, I saw an open space to order a drink. The guy sitting next to me saw me, raised his eyebrows and turned the other way to make sure I don’t DARE try to talk to him. (Because I totally went there to hit on him and NOT get a drink right?)
- I once went with my gay male friend to a straight guys house he knew. The first thing out of the straight guy’s mouth was “I was totally excited when you had a chick with you. Nevermind!” the whole night he offered my friend drinks and didn’t offer me a thing and seemed frustrated when I asked where the bathroom was. The only other thing he said that night was “do you have any hot single friends that would come over here?”
- Another time I went with a female friend of mine to get drinks. We met up with her guy friend. He ordered a round of beers for everyone except me. His excuse was “he didn’t know she was going to bring someone along and he is low on money” that was until his guy friend from high school showed up unexpectedly and he quickly bought him a drink.
These are just examples that have happened to me. So my question is are there any other “unattractive” girls out there that experience things similar to this?
I just wanted to speak from the other perspective. We always hear the horror stories of sexism from the perspective of the women who are objectified by men in the sense of “oo I want that.” and not too many in the sense of “oo, ew DO NOT WANT”
This may seem like a big long rant that looks like “WAH PRETTY GIRLS GET THINGS AND I DON’T OH MY LIFE SUCKS” but I don’t mean to come off that way. Because I feel the need to mention that guys don’t do this just to get laid. This is where it’s important to bring up the fact that we are treated with less respect than other men. Men aren’t decent people to other men because they want to fuck them. They are decent to them because they see them as equals that deserve basic respect and acknowledgement. But we are women and to these men either you try to fuck them because they are hot or want them to go away. An unattractive woman has no purpose to him.
Misogyny affects all women negatively.
THIS IS IMPORTANTAs a woman who gained a lot of weight right out of high-school and spent 3 years in ill fitting clothes and various terrible haircuts, then lost the weight in her early twenties and drastically refined her look — I have lived both sides of this equation. And I think having experienced the dismissal makes it all the more glaringly obvious how hollow the so called “positive” attention really is.
Oh, this is a good post. Having been overweight my whole life, I know what it’s like to feel invisible. And it’s not that I want to be catcalled, but having my existence as a person acknowledged (as in the examples above) would be nice. It sucks to feel like you don’t matter as a human being because you’re not “hot,” or whatever.
Starrla, yes- I agree so fully. It’s not that I want to be catcalled. But this treatment is what actually made me stop going out for drinks with some of my more conventionally attractive female friends - on a good day, I get ignored. On a bad day, the looks and attitudes directed my way seem to ask “How DARE you show your face in a place like this? Do you ACTUALLY think anyone here would take you home?” Well, no. Nor do I want anyone here to do so. I would just like a whiskey sour, thanks, and maybe some interesting conversation, if anyone is offering.
And in this same vein, this attitude directed toward me has made me debate trying to change my own appearance. Do I really want to lose weight or grow my hair out or buy new clothes? I won’t lie; sometimes I think doing those things would make me more attractive. But getting that attention from people who didn’t see fit to notice me before… it almost doesn’t seem worth it.
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well then… no t-shirt for you, only members of the evil plan
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i dont even interpret “uwu” as a smiley i just read it as “oo woo”
that’s it that’s the whole argument.
That’s literally the best way i’ve ever seen to describe it.
"I’m sorry I couldn’t find an image of a star collapsing, so that’s Jennifer Lawrence." [x]
Botanical Yarrow tattoo by Maggie Brophy at Gnostic Tattoo. Brooklyn, NY.
So I have a pet duck who is special needs. I saved Spuck from being culled as a duckling and he imprinted on me, but I go to college on the other side of the country. This was my duck’s reaction after seeing me for the first time in 4 months
one time in 7th grade everyone in my class got really quiet so i said “dildo” just to see the ridiculous reaction since i knew how immature 7th graders were
for 30 minutes, there was an uncontrollable uproar of laughter and someone fell and hit their head on a chair and had to go to the nurse
because i said dildo.